Just finished an hour-long radio show in ijpr.org (Jefferson Public Radio).\u00a0 I find that when I’m talking on the air, I swing into manic mode.\u00a0 My voice gets tight, as if there is not enough air for me to talk, breathe, and think at the same time.\u00a0 There is a lot I want to get said, and I never know how long the host will let me talk.\u00a0 So I talk fast.\u00a0 I try to slow down and I’m almost gulping for air.\u00a0 There is no slowing down.\u00a0 I am thinking on my feet, walking from room to room with the phone pressed to my ear, waiting for the next question, wondering what it will be.\u00a0 This time, I was also waiting for the bus to bring Nat home, halfway through the interview.<\/p>\n
I was stressed but not incapacitated.\u00a0 There was one question where I forgot what I was saying, because I was thinking about Nat sitting down in the dining room to eat his snack.\u00a0 I could hear him humming and smacking his lips, crunching at the chips and scooping out the salsa in big red lumps.\u00a0 A blizzard of crumbs swirl around him.<\/p>\n
I was zooming around, not paying attention to much except the man’s voice in my ear and Nat in the other room.\u00a0 I was trying to block out all else.\u00a0 I was struggling to listen to what was being said to me.\u00a0 I wanted to give the person what he wanted, and also give Nat all the care he wanted the moment he first comes home.\u00a0 The endless walking in circles helped calm me and focus me.\u00a0 My words came out faster than I would have liked, because of my high degree of stress and effort. \u00a0 I was actually functioning almost in an autistic manner while talking about how autism parents function and try to live good lives in the context of great challenge and devastating love.<\/p>\n
I think that this is the way I lived so much of my life when Nat lived at home:\u00a0 thinking fast, trying to solve problems put to me, trying to be articulate to those talking to me, keeping more than one eye out for Nat and what he was up to, what he needed.\u00a0 Stressed but not incapacitated.\u00a0 But maybe not always at the best of my four cylinders.\u00a0 Trying to do something for me (usually that meant just living that moment) while of course trying to do whatever Nat needed.<\/p>\n
How do we live our lives well when we are living our lives so jammed up?\u00a0 We talk, we do, we try to think, we try to love.\u00a0 We breathe but sometimes even that is hard.\u00a0 I think we just do it, endlessly, and that we are doing it well though it may not seem it, because that is what living is.\u00a0 Otherwise, it is just kind of a nap.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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