{"id":1674,"date":"2010-07-19T20:39:10","date_gmt":"2010-07-20T00:39:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/?p=1674"},"modified":"2010-07-19T20:41:41","modified_gmt":"2010-07-20T00:41:41","slug":"a-window-to-a-soul","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/2010\/07\/a-window-to-a-soul\/","title":{"rendered":"A Window to a Soul"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Over the years, people have suggested art therapy as a possible way to get Nat to express himself.\u00a0 Back then we were always looking for therapies that would get at Nat and help him.\u00a0 We did years of music therapy (in addition to years of speech, language, sensory integration, and behavioral therapy.\u00a0 We tried a little Floortime and we looked into auditory integrated training, as well as perhaps a week of The Diet.\u00a0\u00a0 Blah blah blah try try try, fail fail fail) but we never did try art therapy.\u00a0 I hated when people suggested it to me the same way I hated it when people say that &#8220;autistic people respond well to visuals.&#8221;\u00a0 It seemed to be one of those sweeping generalizations that had no bearing on who Nat was. I still get that feeling, like a balloon losing air, when people suggest things I should try for Nat.<\/p>\n<p>Nat did not like art.\u00a0 We&#8217;d put crayons in front of him and he&#8217;d scribble, filling every white space on the page with the one color he&#8217;d chosen.\u00a0 To me, this felt hopeless, rote.\u00a0 It did not seem like he was expressing himself, or if he was, what was he saying?\u00a0 It was just painful for me at the time.\u00a0 I guess this is because I was judging him by how I would do things:\u00a0 if I had crayons, I&#8217;d draw <em>something.<\/em> A woman in a ballgown, a garden, an undersea scene.\u00a0 I suppose I could have said that Nat was more abstract, but it felt like a thin assumption.\u00a0 His scribbling was listless, phoned in.\u00a0 I know when he likes something and when he doesn&#8217;t.\u00a0 It just felt like art, for Nat, was not an avenue to pursue.<\/p>\n<p>Today I drove out to Nat&#8217;s school with a pile of blue-colored tulle I&#8217;d bought at <a href=\"http:\/\/www.joann.com\/joann\/home\/home.jsp?WT.term=joann+fabrics&amp;WT.campaign=2015&amp;WT.source=google&amp;WT.medium=cpc&amp;WT.content=511592565&amp;cm_mmc=google-_-2015-_-511592565-_-joann+fabrics&amp;cshift_ck=2016273438cs511592565&amp;WT.srch=1\">JoAnn Fabrics<\/a>.\u00a0 (I love JoAnn Fabrics because any craft project you want to do, they got aisles and aisles of the raw materials.\u00a0 Walls and rows of every color, every texture.\u00a0 Beads, baubles, brushes, paints, feathers, glitter.\u00a0 It makes a gaudy girl like me want to sing.\u00a0 Or sew.)<\/p>\n<p>The tulle was for decorating the school gym for the prom.\u00a0 They are having another prom, <a href=\"http:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/2009\/06\/once-upon-a-dream\/\">just like last year<\/a>, for the upper school.\u00a0 This year the theme is &#8220;Under the Sea.&#8221;\u00a0 I immediately had an entire vision of what they should do:\u00a0 swaths and swags of tulle, in blue, green, purple, waving from one end of the gym ceiling to the other, like the top of the ocean.\u00a0 Tiny lights (plankton?\u00a0 starfish?) to further delight.\u00a0 I was laying the tulle out along the floor of the gym with the school&#8217;s Family Services person, Jessica, who also seems to be the go-to girl for just about everything there.\u00a0 Jessica suggested I come with her to the art room to see some of the decorations the students have been working on.<\/p>\n<p>The art room was a beautiful rainbow of sea-themed clutter:\u00a0 seahorses standing up on their own somehow; a big stingray spread out on the table between Crystal, the art teacher, and Norah, a mom.\u00a0 Crystal pointed me to Nat&#8217;s work &#8212; his class had also painted sea creatures on the school window. As I turned to look, I felt that same old soul deflation beginning.\u00a0 But there, in very recognizable form, were two stingrays fluttering through a thickly painted ocean of sea life.\u00a0 &#8220;He did it completely on his own,&#8221; Crystal said.\u00a0 &#8220;He copied this picture,&#8221; and she handed me a picture of rays.\u00a0 &#8220;I didn&#8217;t know he could paint,&#8221; I said &#8212; shouted, really, with my voice cracking and tears pushing behind my eyes &#8212; while they all looked at me sympathetically.\u00a0 Norah, the other mom, said, &#8220;Yeah, they never show you at home what they can do.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Just when you think God had closed the door on something, He opens up a window.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/07\/photo3.jpg\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"1676\" 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