I am eventually going to de-mystify Turning 22, for me and for anyone else who’s reading.\u00a0 I’ve been giving a lot of talks this year and maybe it’s my own energy around the subject, but I’m finding that the parents in the audience want to hear about post 22 more than anything else.\u00a0 My talk has thus begun to shift towards Nat’s later years, towards new topics such as “the dignity of risk,” and “letting my autistic child move out,” and “fostering a connection with my adult autistic son.”\u00a0 Where my main topics used to be things like “Pre-diagnosis confusion and loneliness,” and “Finding the right school program,” and “Sibling relationships,” I am adding in so much more about Nat as he is now, or as he’s been in the last 5 years.<\/p>\n
I’ve had more hope and excitement in the last 5 years than in all of Nat’s childhood years.\u00a0 That’s because I’ve seen more growth since age 15 or 16 than I used to see.\u00a0 I will never know why it happened that way:\u00a0 was it because I was so panicked in the early years that I stressed him out too much?\u00a0 Or was it that he was not progressing quickly enough that panicked me?\u00a0 What was real and what was my perception, my filter?<\/p>\n
More and more frequently, I feel positive about Nat, counter to what I maybe should be feeling.\u00a0 I feel good for two reasons:\u00a0 the Big Picture, and also the fact that I’m conquering my ignorance about Turning-22.<\/p>\n
When I look at the Post-22 programs, funding, regulations, and limitations our country and my state offer, I could conceivably be very worried and pessimistic.\u00a0 But I’m not.\u00a0 I feel, for the most part, proud that our country has so many programs, as limited and as poorly funded as they are.\u00a0 We are still a great society, a country that tries to take care of its citizens, though sometimes not as efficiently or as thoroughly as it ought.<\/p>\n
The problem, as I see it, is that the information about the programs is buried in many different places, like the way a paranoid old miser hides his money:\u00a0 some under the mattress, some sewn into his coat hem, some in a safe.\u00a0 All of the different programs and revenue streams for developmentally disabled adults are shrouded in dusty old office buildings, or ten clicks away from the original link, or embedded in text that would make a 1040 form read like an Archie comic.<\/p>\n
This is what I want to talk about, what I do talk about, to anyone in my circle, to anyone who’ll listen.\u00a0 I don’t want to get all Chicken Little on your ass and scare you about Post 22; rather, I want to make you clear-minded.\u00a0 The other reason I mentioned about feeling positive about Nat as an autistic adult is that I am beginning to understand The System.<\/em> I’m getting it.\u00a0 So now I want to talk about it systematically, so that everyone after me will have steps to follow, but the trouble is, this didn’t happen for me in steps.\u00a0 It happened in bursts, in gusts of clarity and energy.\u00a0 Whenever I had the time or attention span to listen to the gurus I’d identified, I listened with my eyes wide open.\u00a0 I repeated facts and asked the same question over and over again until I understood.\u00a0 I made myself look stupid and pain-in-the-assish, but I finally get it.<\/p>\n Here’s a few things I know, FYI:<\/p>\n 1) Apply for your kid’s SSI<\/strong> as soon as he’s 18.\u00a0 That way he’ll start receiving a fairly substantial regular check that you can use for his expenses (therapy, gym equipment, tutor, summer camp).\u00a0 And more importantly, he will be eligible for Medicaid.\u00a0 BTW, don’t try to apply for SSI online; go in person to your local office.<\/p>\n 2) Medicaid<\/strong> is not just an amazing insurance program that pays for a lot of your child’s care that ordinary insurance will not.\u00a0 Medicaid is also the way to get him a day program post-22.\u00a0 In Massachusetts and many other states (I believe), Medicaid funds the DayHabs, the 9-3 program your child can go to M-F.\u00a0 It is up to you to explore various DayHabs to find the best (they are not all alike).\u00a0 You can start exploring DayHabs whenever you are ready.\u00a0 You find them through service providers, or sometimes they’re called vendors.\u00a0 Your Department of Developmental Services (DDS) should have a list.<\/p>\n 3) Find out your child’s Priority rating with the DDS<\/strong>, if he is even eligible for this scanty funding.<\/p>\n -In Massachusetts, it is through DDS that your child would receive Residential Support, e.g., the staff to support him while he is not in DayHab.<\/p>\n -Sometimes the DDS has money to fund certain Day Programs that are not DayHabs.\u00a0 Day Programs might have work as a component, and they are highly desirable, but the funding is scarce.\u00a0 Still, if you find a Day Program you like, push for it with the DDS.<\/p>\n 4) If your child is not DDS eligible but gets Medicaid, see if he can qualify for Adult Foster Care funding (AFC).\u00a0 This provides a stipend for a live-in caregiver.\u00a0 Not enough for full-time, but if he lives with another peer with similar needs, perhaps they can pool their AFC money and have enough for one caregiver to share.<\/p>\n 5) Apply, in your child’s name, to the Section 8<\/strong> waiting list.\u00a0 It is approximately 10 years to wait, but before you know it, that time will pass.\u00a0 There are some centralized lists that basically all use the one application so you don’t have to apply to hundreds of Housing Authorities (Housing Authorities administer the Section 8 program).\u00a0 My next book will explain Section 8 but basically, once you have a mobile Section 8 voucher, you can look for Section 8 housing and you only have to pay 30% of your income towards rent.<\/p>\n -Project-based Section 8’s are a good deal.\u00a0 They are not assigned to a person like the mobile vouchers; they are assigned to a property intended for Section 8 eligible tenants.<\/p>\n 6) Network<\/strong> with parents you know who are in the same boat.\u00a0 Cultivating your child’s community is as important as securing funding.\u00a0 If you have a committed group, you can accomplish a lot.\u00a0 Make friends with the parents in your kid’s class; take him to Special Olympics events to find peers for him and parents for you.\u00a0 Go to support groups to find kindred spirits.\u00a0 Think of this as if you are an old fashioned parent trying to find the right spouse for your child.\u00a0 You will be going into business with these people and you need to be able to work with them and depend on them.<\/p>\n I will also talk in later posts\/my next book about how to come up with the kind of living arrangement you think your child would like — either with his help, or if he can’t give you that kind of information, how to figure it out for yourself.\u00a0 Also, how to find people to staff, train, and run the Residence.<\/p>\n But not tonight.\u00a0 I have a headache, and as Nat told me earlier, “Mommy lie down.”\u00a0 So, later.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I am eventually going to de-mystify Turning 22, for me and for anyone else who’s reading.\u00a0 I’ve been giving a lot of talks this year and maybe it’s my own energy around the subject, but I’m finding that the parents in the audience want to hear about post 22 more than anything else.\u00a0 My talk […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1862","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pSTth-u2","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1862","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1862"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1862\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1864,"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1862\/revisions\/1864"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1862"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1862"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1862"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}