that one who learned to communicate at last<\/a> and almost the first thing he or she said was, “Stop treating me like I don’t understand!!!!”\u00a0 (Carly Fleischmann is my favorite success story; I know the family personally and I really admire Carly for her skills and quick wit. Carly also attended Extreme Sports Camp with Nat.)<\/p>\nNat doesn’t like to type to communicate, but he is becoming very adept at terse, no-frills speaking.\u00a0 The other day the staff had to pull the van over to the side of the road because one of Nat’s housemates was having a seizure.\u00a0 Nat kept repeating, “Drive to school,” or some other of his commands, but of course they could not until the student was restored to calm and safety.\u00a0 This occurrence also meant that Nat could not get the explanations he needed to calm down, and having the bus pull over is a huge deviation from the routine.\u00a0 These days, Nat needs us to talk to him, regularly, and also, to watch what we say.<\/p>\n
Nat is a thin guy, all bone, sinew, and neuron.\u00a0 He almost jangles with neurological activity when he walks.\u00a0 During the fall, we reduced his Resperadal — in my view, the less of it, the better, because of potential side effects — and he became more lively.\u00a0 Actually, he became more alive.\u00a0 And being alive comes with anxiety and worry as well as joy and other emotions.<\/p>\n
I believe the lower dose of Resperadal made him able to talk more.\u00a0 It makes sense:\u00a0 if you are less sedated, you are more awake.\u00a0 He has less to shield him from what’s going on around him.\u00a0 We believe he can handle this now, and so far, so good.\u00a0 This development reminds me of when he was 10 and we tried him on zoloft.\u00a0 Zoloft cut down on his anxiety a bit too much, so he was way too relaxed and giddy, and eventually became mischievous, which then begat aggression.\u00a0 (Or so we think.)<\/p>\n
Nat is talking bit by bit, more and more, yet with every new occurrence of his competence, we are surprised.\u00a0 It’s become a thing for Ned and me, more of our Couple Culture (which I think is a key to successful marriage.\u00a0 You need to have history that you enjoy and refer to and laugh about.\u00a0 You need to be loyal to your couple history, and elevate it above anything else in your life.\u00a0 That is my two cents, and I’ve been happily married for nearly 27 years).\u00a0 So Ned and I have our Nat stories that we bring back to each other, like I did with the Stop&Shop trip; that was the Saturday Nat Story.<\/p>\n
Last Sunday Ned took Nat on a walk into our downtown and they passed a woman in a car that was double-parked, in front of an empty space; she was waiting for traffic to clear so that she could parallel park there.\u00a0 She was waiting too long for Boston standards.\u00a0 This is the kind of annoying thing other drivers notice and honk at.<\/p>\n
After they passed her, Nat turned around to look at the car sitting there.\u00a0 Staring at the woman and the car for some time, Nat finally pointed right at her and quietly said: “Park.”<\/p>\n
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