{"id":2078,"date":"2011-06-25T20:41:29","date_gmt":"2011-06-26T00:41:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/?p=2078"},"modified":"2011-06-25T21:31:07","modified_gmt":"2011-06-26T01:31:07","slug":"nothing-about-us-without-us","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/2011\/06\/nothing-about-us-without-us\/","title":{"rendered":"Nothing About Us Without Us"},"content":{"rendered":"

I just got back from a focus group run the dynamic and talented Lydia Brown of\u00a0 the Boston Chapter of the ASAN, Autistic Self-Advocacy Network<\/a>.\u00a0 ASAN is working with the Arc of the US, advising the Arc on its new Autism Now venture<\/a>.\u00a0 Autism Now is a project that is aimed at improving the lives of those with autism across the country.\u00a0 I’m on the advisory board of Autism Now but until today I wasn’t as sure about what the project is.\u00a0 Now I know.<\/p>\n

Ari Ne’eman, the founder of ASAN and the young man appointed to President Obama’s Council on Disability<\/a>, gave the keynote (which I missed because I was at Nat’s prom).\u00a0 I sat in a room of about 25 people, 22 of whom had autism in varying degrees, for the purpose of drafting points for the core values of Autism Now.\u00a0 Needless to say, my world has turned upside down.\u00a0 I, a neurotypical person, was far outnumbered and boy was I aware of it.\u00a0 I sat still, afraid to distract people in any way from expressing themselves.\u00a0 I tried to listen more than speak.\u00a0 I did make a couple of contributions (we were hammering out a mission statement and goals for the Autism Now project, from the perspective of folks with autism (Nothing About Us Without Us is the motto).<\/p>\n

One person at my table gave me some great ideas for communicating with Nat.\u00a0 He told me that I could make a booklet of Nat’s favorite Disney people and have the story be about how one of them had to call 911.\u00a0 This was in response to my plaint that I don’t think Nat would know to call 911 in an emergency.\u00a0 I don’t know if this would work exactly with Nat right now but what I loved was the creativity and willingness on this young man’s part to help me.\u00a0 Occasionally he would turn away and flap, and collect his thoughts.\u00a0 Many in the room did this, in fact.\u00a0 This moved me almost to tears because it is like what Nat does, and it proved to me that there is indeed a Spectrum, and that these people who could speak (my language) could give me a clue into some of Nat’s struggles.\u00a0 I loved the way every single person I spoke to asked my why Nat wasn’t there.\u00a0 He should have been.\u00a0 Why not?\u00a0 It made me think again about how I do not always presume competence, but truly we all should.\u00a0 Just because Nat isn’t getting something now does not mean he doesn’t get it on some level.\u00a0 My neighbor at the table said “You should just keep asking him, and eventually he will answer you.”<\/p>\n

This is very wise, because you can interpret it in several ways.\u00a0 You can think that perhaps with repetition in the moment, Nat will able to formulate the words.\u00a0 Or you can think that the repetition over the years will show Nat that you care, that this is important to you.\u00a0 All of them were testaments to how atypical is atypical development.\u00a0 The stories about not talking, not crawling, not eating — !\u00a0 All the kinds of difficulties we run into with our Spectrum kids, to hear about how it felt to be on the other end, the actual one who was not talking, crawling, eating.\u00a0 It just blew my mind.<\/p>\n

The kinds of goals the groups came up with were:\u00a0 1) More training needed around the country, including First Responders, employers, general public; 2) More flexibility in Adult Services, so that the money follows the client (guess who contributed that one!); 3) More access to communication supports, facilitative communication and technology; 4) More public education about the fact that Silence is Not Stupidity, that non-verbal people are not trying to be mean or rude and are not unintelligent; 5) Autism is a disability and a difference (in other words, autistics are also a political group who want to be treated fairly and respectfully, disability issues\/therapies\/cures aside).<\/p>\n

In between each group’s presentation, I noticed everyone around me waving their hands in the air.\u00a0 I was the only one who thought to clap.\u00a0 Finally I asked, “what is that?”\u00a0 and they told me, it is a widely-known autism thing called, “Flap, don’t clap.”\u00a0 Clapping, of course, can be terrible for those with sensory issues.<\/p>\n

Folks, there truly is a Spectrum.\u00a0 There is no point in our arguing among ourselves that this one doesn’t really have autism and that one is a fraud and you don’t know how bad it can be and so on.\u00a0 Let’s not play the whose kid is worse game.\u00a0 Let’s not play whose kid can pass for normal.\u00a0 Let’s just focus on what needs to be done:\u00a0 education of the public, and education\/training for those with autism.<\/p>\n

Mostly what I brought away from this focus group was the overwhelming feeling of pride in people.\u00a0 I left in a bittersweet mood, sad for how much people who are different and disabled have to struggle.\u00a0 Why do some have so much and others have so much trouble?\u00a0 But I also felt happy to be a member of the human race, actually, because only we have the remarkable ability to compensate for our deficits and then to reach out and help others.\u00a0 And to speak to those in power with courage and patience about how we need to widen our capacity to care even more.\u00a0 I applaud ASAN for their efforts.\u00a0 Er, I mean, I flap for ASAN’s wonderful work.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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