{"id":2476,"date":"2012-03-22T21:05:40","date_gmt":"2012-03-23T01:05:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/?p=2476"},"modified":"2012-03-22T21:05:40","modified_gmt":"2012-03-23T01:05:40","slug":"of-mice-men-and-burdens-on-society","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/2012\/03\/of-mice-men-and-burdens-on-society\/","title":{"rendered":"Of Mice, Men, and Burdens on Society"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ben’s reading Of Mice and Men<\/em> and he looks like he’s near tears. “Poor bastard,” he said, about Lenny killing the puppies and then the young woman. Ben knows that Lenny was a victim of his time, back when a “simpleton” was nothing but that, and if he had no family to care for him, he was left to the elements. Steinbeck’s story is not a retelling of actual events, but it is certainly real.<\/p>\n

Recently I had one of those arguments on Facebook with a “friend” who objected to one of my pleas to save Medicaid, and the programs that spring from those funds. “Why can’t their families take care of their own?” he asked. “I’d never want to be a burden on society.”<\/p>\n

Who does? Even if you know one or two who live on “handouts,” you have to know that the bulk of us do not want to. Most people are good. Most people want to lead meaningful lives. Most want to work and to feel useful. But what if you can’t without help?\u00a0 Throughout history families were indeed the ones — the sole people — to take care of their intellectually disabled relative.\u00a0 Some families did this and do this admirably. Many of us do. We are the ones who love our family members the most, so it is only natural that we should be the ones to invest the love, energy, time, and money in them! Of course!<\/p>\n

But what about the family who can’t? Where do they turn? Neighbors? Church? Synagogue? Maybe. But what if they don’t belong? What if they don’t get along? What if their church is poor and can’t help? Do we just say “tough shit?” And as society becomes more complex, with families split all over the world working where the jobs are, how do families “simply” help their own? If they are working several jobs to pay for our expensive way of life, with their attention absorbed by the demands of those jobs along with all the other things competing for our attention — how do they manage alone the gigantic set of problems brought by a multi-layered disorder like autism?<\/p>\n

Let’s suppose life were more simple and straightforward Back Then, whenever that was. Girls were girls and men were men. Women didn’t work outside of the home so they could take care of the children, whatever their issues were. There were enough jobs to go around because we didn’t have so many immigrants or women competing for jobs or minorities given a chance.<\/p>\n

Uh huh. Okay, let’s take the Rick Santorum message even further. Maybe we had more stability in the family and in the economy — but at what cost?\u00a0 Stratified society, minorities as second class citizens, women kept from the workplace…<\/p>\n

To tell you the truth, I don’t think life was ever simple and straightforward, even if the pervasive beliefs were:\u00a0 Take care of your own, don’t expect a handout, God helps those who help themselves<\/em>. And people suffered. We just didn’t hear as much about it without the Internet and news feeds. We had guys like Lenny, whom the schools were not required to educate. For whom there was no social worker or Welfare agency. No Department of Developmental Services to help him find a program where he could at least be safe. We had guys like Lenny and guys like George, way over his head, unable to meet Lenny’s extraordinary needs. Putting an end to Lenny’s life because it was just too hard.<\/p>\n

We had guys like Nat, maybe lucky enough to live home with their moms and dads until a sibling could take them in. If that family operated at the highest functioning levels of supporting each other. If. Or maybe the Nats of the world were simply<\/em> put into an institution to live a life wandering and staring at walls.<\/p>\n

Now that we know what we know about human potential, there is no going back.\u00a0 We need our social programs. Maybe you don’t, because you have your special family or a really unique, caring town. You have, perhaps, just the right kind of church. Maybe the shopkeeper down the street really gets your kid, and so he has no need of a job coach.<\/p>\n

You are in the tiniest minority.<\/p>\n

Most of us live far more disorganized, hectic, troubled lives than that. Our world was never simple, but it is so intricately complicated now because we’ve made it that way. We humans have evolved into the Technological Age, the Age of (Too Much) Information. So we need solutions that match the complexity of the people we’ve become. That’s why we can’t turn back the clock to those Good Ole Days when family took care of their own and didn’t ask for a handout. Because if we pay close attention to those Simpler Times, we will find that nothing was simple and in fact people suffered, languished, wasted away.<\/p>\n

We know more now, and so the price of our knowledge is that we have more responsibility.\u00a0 Or is your solution like George’s, simplistic and desperate — and deadly?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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