{"id":319,"date":"2008-12-18T07:07:00","date_gmt":"2008-12-18T07:07:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog2\/2008\/12\/reductio-et-absurd-ish-um\/"},"modified":"2008-12-18T07:07:00","modified_gmt":"2008-12-18T07:07:00","slug":"reductio-et-absurd-ish-um","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/2008\/12\/reductio-et-absurd-ish-um\/","title":{"rendered":"Reductio et Absurd-ish, um"},"content":{"rendered":"

My latest column for the Brookline Tab is about my winter inertia<\/a>. It is also about Nat coming home for December 23-January 5. I am so psyched for that. Of course, nervous too. But not dreading. Honestly, I used to dread those long vacations with him. I never knew what I was supposed to do. Was it okay to let him lie around, watch Disney, suck his thumb, and talk to himself? Wasn’t I supposed to create schedules — and follow them?! I am famous for making beautiful structured plans and then, well, it ends up happening but not at all the way I had laid it out. Poor Nat! If he is supposed to need\/crave structure, he got born to the wrong Mommy!<\/p>\n

I say that because I secretly (well, not anymore!) believe that it is not that simple. Nat is not that uncomplicated. Sometimes he does so well with structure; other times, he leaps up with joy at the sudden change in plans. Which usually comes from me. The rest of my family is much more — how to say it with love — tree appendages mired in moraine<\/a> — and I, well, I am more on the changeable, mercurial, “moody” end of the spectrum.<\/p>\n

That is what I hate about diagnosis. It reduces people. As the Latin phrase goes, that is an absurd practice. People are so multifaceted, we don’t even know what goes on inside the other 90% of our brains (this may be an urban legend, according to Ned, but it suits my purposes, so…) The truth is there, nevertheless, give or take a percentage point. You see where I’m going with this.<\/p>\n

I just hate the rules. “He needs structure.” “He needs consistency.”<\/p>\n

“You have to let him go.” Well you<\/span> have to shut up.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

My latest column for the Brookline Tab is about my winter inertia. It is also about Nat coming home for December 23-January 5. I am so psyched for that. Of course, nervous too. But not dreading. Honestly, I used to dread those long vacations with him. I never knew what I was supposed to do. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-319","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pSTth-59","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/319","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=319"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/319\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=319"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=319"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/susansenator.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=319"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}