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Tuesday, January 2, 2007

Ouch!

16 comments

LOVE LOVE LOVE the outfit. It’s so pretty. I live for girly stuff.

— added by Tamsen on Wednesday, January 3, 2007 at 11:43 am

Thank you! I never hear much about the belly dance stuff anymore so I figure everyone’s jaded or sick of it.

Do you dance? Maybe you’d love it, too! You get to pile on the sparkly ribbons and tassels and sequins. In fact, you’re supposed to!!!

— added by Susan Senator on Wednesday, January 3, 2007 at 11:47 am

No, no keep posting about the belly dance stuff- especially when you get or make new outfits. Those are some of my favorite entries. 🙂

You know, I never was a dancer as a kid- my sister Natasha did all that. But I definitely need to see if my community offers something like that here. I’ll let you know if I find something! (And if I find the perfect outfit for it!)

— added by Tamsen on Wednesday, January 3, 2007 at 3:12 pm

Tamsen –

When you do start, let me know. If I can help you at all with the costuming, I’d love to!!

— added by Susan Senator on Wednesday, January 3, 2007 at 4:01 pm

I’m not getting tired of pictures of fun clothing! Not sure you’d get me in it, but I can appreciate others in it, certainly!

— added by Julia on Wednesday, January 3, 2007 at 6:01 pm

Thank you, Julia! You are always kind.

— added by Susan Senator on Wednesday, January 3, 2007 at 6:05 pm

Yeah well I am one of the ones who is sick of the belly dance stuff. It is great that you have a nice little hobby-but it is not why I visit your site. Maybe you are just running out of things to say. I liked what you said in your book-I thought it was somewhat well written and so I thought that visiting your site on a semi-regular basis would be inspiring. If you want to have a blog-great-I would still read it from time to time but I come here looking for guidance and inspriration and all you seem to do is talk about yourself and every now and then throw something in about Nat, who is the main reason people come to your site to begin with. You come across as mid-life crisis-y and in need of attention and wanting people to see how “pretty” you are and really it is kind of embarassing. I think I am done visiting. You really don’t have much to say about your wonderful child Nat anymore and I could care less about seeing your body in belly dance clothing. I am glad you are feeling like you look good in all of that stuff, but in my opinion you look better with your clothes on. You are prettiest in the pictures where you have on no make up, and are doing cool things like making latkes and cakes for your kids. You have become really annoying over the past month or so.
I am sure that you won’t like this post because you seem like somebody who gets offended easily. You are lucky that you have Ned-he sounds wonderful and to deal with someone as in need of attention as you he must be very patient. I wish you the best with your family and you are very blessed to have them. Remember-“less is more”. Unless you are some kind of Victoria’s Secret model, most of the population does not want to see your body like that, and just because you have a tatoo that does not make you some “cool mom”. I have them as well but I do not go around putting pictures up on the internet that scream “LOOK AT ME! I am cool”. You are not that cool, and you don’t look that good in all of that stuff. You are more annoying than anything, and disappionting from what you come across in your book. I do hope you have fun with the belly dancing but I also hope that you stop putting yourself out there like that so you don’t turn more people away like me, and I know I am not the only one. I have a friend who I gave you book to and she read it and used to visit you site and stopped a while ago after commenting that you seemed a bit shallow and did not really talk about anything she cared much about. She has since found may other helpful and interesting blogs and I am sure I will too.

— added by Anonymous on Thursday, January 4, 2007 at 11:25 am

No, I’m not offended by what you’ve written. It’s just your opinion. I have mine as well. And plenty of friends, readers, and a husband (who is no saint by the way!) all who would probably disagree with you, and frankly that’s what counts.

You need a new blog or a hobby or something. I suggest belly dance!

— added by Susan Senator on Thursday, January 4, 2007 at 11:33 am

P.S.
The Tat is a kiddie one. I’m opposed to getting a real tatoo — looks too much like a bruise.

— added by Susan Senator on Thursday, January 4, 2007 at 11:52 am

Anonymous: you are hilarious: “Less is more,” embedded in the middle of a long rambling screed!

If you don’t like what Susan (or any blog writer) is writing, just stop reading!

I am not an especially patient man, but I am pretty wonderful, thanks!

— added by Ned Batchelder on Thursday, January 4, 2007 at 12:51 pm

Anon is totally missing the point! I read this blog because you do write about varied and complicated things AND you don’t always claim to have the answers.

You are a real person and most of us (me included) do not put themselves “out there” so courageously.

I hope you don’t change a thing about your style/topics of writing.

Ned is right, stop reading if it is not your cup of tea.

— added by susan on Thursday, January 4, 2007 at 1:33 pm

Susan, to heck with anon. You look great and you can scream three words at her:

NO LOVE HANDLES!

Hell, I “elf’ed” myself in a silly blog post. Next time I just might tap dance!

KIM

— added by Kim Rossi Stagliano on Thursday, January 4, 2007 at 4:11 pm

That elf stuff is pretty cute!
I think I would like belly dancing but alas I think I have too much belly but I made a great elf!

— added by Dori on Thursday, January 4, 2007 at 8:12 pm

Kim –
I saw your elf! It was funny! I have a version of that where I have an afro.

Dori – The great thing about belly dancing (one of many great things) is that there is no such thing as too much belly. There are some pretty big dancers I’ve seen and they look great! It’s all about muscle isolations, not being a Victoria Secret model, as Anonymous so charmingly put it.

— added by Susan Senator on Thursday, January 4, 2007 at 8:18 pm

dear anon.

i came here because of nat, and got a lot more 🙂

— added by Anonymous on Thursday, January 4, 2007 at 10:08 pm

[THIS IS FROM MY DAD, WHO DOESN’T KNOW HOW TO POST COMMENTS ON MY BLOG AND WHOM I LOVE DEARLY]
Dear Susan-
Please add this to your blog comments for the appropriate date (1/4/07)

I always say, you are what you do. So, what have we here? The mother of an autistic teenager who recently wrote a well received book on her family’s experiences of living with autism, who is an elected town official and former school committee member, a SPED advocate on several state committees, a national speaker on the topic of the autistic family experience, a writer of numerous articles on autism and more, who happens to enjoy belly dancing in costume.
I think belly dancing helps; it helps Susan cope with Nat’s problems, the school, state laws and mostly, family stresses. Parents of autistic children, especially, need to develop and maintain ways of releasing and coping with the pressures of the every day. Be it through taking time for swimming, biking, running, reading, tennis, painting with oils or, yes, even belly dancing, I say do it!
Susan, you are a model for parents in this area too. So, keep belly dancing, my darling daughter. I am looking forward to seeing the new steps and the new costumes.
Susan’s dad 1/6/07

— added by Susan Senator on Sunday, January 7, 2007 at 8:10 am