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Friday, January 5, 2007


This new year hit me heavily. It makes no sense to me having a holiday suddenly and in the middle of winter, the most desperate time of year, which declares that a new year has begun. Most people are totally tapped out in terms of celebratory or resolution spirit, and then we are asked to have another huge celebration and think how we can be better people? Where we think about what we want to change? For Jews doing this is doubly hard because we just did that in October (Yom Kippur), and without food, too! And of course the whole Book of Life threat hanging over our yarmulked heads like a sword of Damocles. (Why didn’t Damocles’ mother ever tell him, “Okay, Damocles, enough with the sword, already! You’re giving me a headache! Go find some scissors to play with!”)

I think the Jewish New Year makes so much more sense, coming at the beginning of autumn. Autumn is the time of real change, when summer yields to fall and kids go back to school. Fall is the time of melancholy nostalgia, the perfect moment to reflect. But the New Year on December 31 feels bogus and manufactured to me. It is completely anticlimactic, falling just a week after the big cahuna (Christmas).

I have certainly thought of resolutions, nevertheless, because I do that frequently. I have not wanted to post them because I am heartily sick of the whole thing. I did my Tabblo “year in review” mostly because I love looking at my pictures and collecting them together. That always lifts my spirits.

But it is, as I said, pressing me down to think about this new year and what it will be like, what I will do differently, what is over, and what is begun. I am listing them now, because I need to.

1) Not to be afraid to be who I am.
2) Switch stage name from Delilah to Shoshana and all that implies.
3) Earn more money (finish second book draft)
4) Find supplementary help for Nat (home program for independent skills, perhaps a friend)
5) Live more moment to moment, even feeling the pain if it is there, looking up from my computer or book.


Warning: completely off-topic. And I hope this doesn’t really offend, I’m just plain and simple curious.

I work in a small law firm, and yesterday, we completed a few items for a mom and her autistic eighteen year old son. We did a Durable Power of Attorney, Healthcare Power of Attorney, etc. Everything was pretty usual, but the Durable Power of Attorney surprised me a lot. I don’t have family-experience with autism, so I don’t know if this is pretty typical for families to do. I was wondering if you’d mind talking about the legal aspect of autism, what things you put in place for Nat, if any, and how you’ve been approached by teachers, members of the community, etc, if at all, in regards to this.

— added by Tamsen on Friday, January 5, 2007 at 8:55 am

Hi Tamsen,
It’s not off-topic and certainly not offensive! I honestly do not know what “Durable” Power of Attorney means, though I can guess. We know that we have to do the guardianship thing when Nat turns 18 (next fall).

— added by Susan Senator on Friday, January 5, 2007 at 9:20 am

Ahh. Durable Poa is more of a “we’ll be his attorney-in-fact even in mental loss capacity” which is why it interested me so much that they did it that way. My boss told me they usually do guardianships, but they wanted the durable poa in this case.

Interesting. Thanks!

— added by Tamsen on Friday, January 5, 2007 at 11:04 am

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