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Friday, July 11, 2008

Pop – corn

I don’t usually read the Forwarded corny, pop stuff people send me. I prefer to cook up my own. But something about this one made me stop and read. It was not even from a close friend, but someone whom I’ve always liked and admired, and worked with for a time. But getting it from her made me feel really good somehow. What I’ve done is clean up the grammar and the stuff that annoyed me or was unclear, to see if it hangs together for me and my Weltanschauung. I don’t mean to get my sap all over you, but I kind of like it, and I don’t really know why.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. We don’t always know which it is, until much later. Then, hopefully, we feel some peace and understanding about the relationship and its potential purpose.

When someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet some need you have, whether you recognize it or not. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.

They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or perhaps inexplicably or at an inconvenient time, the relationship will come to an end. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, and their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered; but then, it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a season, because the time has come to share, grow or learn — somehow — with them. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. Or you, them. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. But it lasts only for a season.

Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Our task is to accept the lesson and put what we have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of our lives. These relationships are with us for the longhaul.

We are lucky to have any of the three, and hopefully we recognize them when they are with us.


Coming into my life for a reason is absolutely true, as the book Making Peace with Autism was a sort of lifesaver. Although I knew that autism was so prevalent, the only one I knew going through the issues, frustrations, the grief and anger from it was ME. When I found it in the library I immediately started reading it and finally, finally, there was someone out there who had gone through the same thing that my family was going through. The book helped me get past feeling sorry for myself and to get busy doing something to help my son, which I did. But I don’t know if I would have had the courage without having the advice of someone who had been through it before me. There are tons of books on autism, but this one was by far the most helpful to me.

— added by Sharon L. on Saturday, July 12, 2008 at 1:45 pm

Hey, Sharon, thanks for what you said. I am very touched by it.

— added by Susan Senator on Sunday, July 13, 2008 at 7:01 am